3 Important Things To Consider After Having A Family
Things change after becoming a parent. For one, alarm clocks are a thing of the past. You see, I have two littles who enjoy waking me at the first sign of light peeking in through their blinds. They quietly tiptoe down the stairs and whisper “Mommy…” at the foot of my bed. I swallow my frustration wanting just a few more minutes of rest and put my own needs aside. From the moment we wake and all throughout the day, the needs of my children come first. We have three “healthy” meals each day with some snacks scattered in between. We try to maintain a balance of active play and a few hours of rest time in the afternoon. And then sometimes we are in survival mode until everything cycles back around to begin the new day.
Becoming a parent is one of the greatest experiences, it doesn’t matter whether it is your first time, second, or more, the overwhelming love never changes, and the overwhelming feeling of protection grows. However, it is hard to overcome what can feel like being stuck inside a bubble at times — especially when it comes to you and your future. All of your energy is focused on the little ones, and rightly so. But there are certain aspects of your life to consider or even change now that you have a family.
Here are three:
1. The future
It is often hard to see past tomorrow when you are filled with sleep deprivation, but in the blink of an eye your child will soon be walking, heading to school, and eventually leaving the nest. None of us know what the future holds, so consider ways you can protect your family. One of these ways is a life insurance policy that will help to secure your partner or children’s lives moving forward, often you can get whole life insurance quotes online that will help you to consider your options and cover things like your outstanding mortgage, personal debts, or even help to subsidize a loss of income. It can give you total peace of mind in the event of a tragedy.
Another thing to consider in your future is to raise children who know who they are — not ones who are reliant on what they can DO. What happens when your little athlete is injured and can no longer compete? Maybe your young genius will struggle to get a job out of college and he will question his worth. To avoid these future problems, raise your children to focus on developing their character more than their skills. One resource I can provide to assist with this teaching is a free e-book: 5 Ways To Empower Your Children For A Fulfilling And Confident Life
2. Your lifestyle
No longer can you focus on “me, myself, and I.” You have a family to think about, and the last thing any of us wants to do is abuse our bodies. Try and encourage a change of lifestyle for the better that takes care of your needs as well as your family’s. Think about the food you eat and the amount of exercise you do — even how much time you spend on self-care. It is still important that you look after your mindset and well-being. After all, a happy mom means a happy family. You don’t need to deny yourself anything, and sometimes the smallest of changes can make a huge difference to your lifestyle. Consider fueling your body instead of simply feeding it. What would make great body fuel? Also, change your perspective from trying to exercise 3-4 times a week to simply adding frequent daily movements (my favorite is jumping on the trampoline with my littles).
Remember, your lifestyle will be the example you set for your children and possibly even many generations to come!
3. Your time
Finally, we can all agree that time is precious, and we seem to have an increasingly small amount of it — even though the hours in the day have not changed. Understand that your time is important to your children, and they will enjoy interacting with you more than anything else. Yes, chores need completing and a job needs you to work but consider using your time more wisely. A great way to manage your time better is through setting healthy boundaries.
Because we don’t know what the future holds, work towards being a more present mother. Don’t let motherhood be the pause between your life’s beginning and your life’s end. Let it be one of the best parts of your story. Set time aside to enjoy the view that’s right in front of you.
Tell us in the comments what new things you had to consider once starting a family!