The First Step To Overcoming Any Problem
“I can’t cook.”
Anyone who knows me well has heard this string of words come out of my mouth. If you invite me to dinner, I volunteer to bring the chips, the drinks, or the packaged dinner rolls. If you just had a baby and create a sign-up sheet for families to bring you meals, you’ll receive a gift card in the mail for your favorite take-out.
Because…you know…I can’t cook.
Recently, my health was out of whack. My energy was low while my anxiety was high, and it felt like this was the beginning of a new normal. I couldn’t sleep during the night and that’s all I wanted to do during the day. And if a meal didn’t come prepackaged to easily fit in the microwave, I just didn’t eat.
I saw these patterns and I wanted to make a change, so I called my good friend and health coach, Ann Christina. With a ball of nerves in my belly and an escape route planned in case she gave me too many rules, I was ready. She sweetly answered the phone and was ready to dive into my health history, concerns, and hope for the future. Within the first few minutes of the phone call, she startled me by calling me out on a bad habit:
“I often hear you say, ‘I can’t cook.”
I think to myself…”Yes! It’s true, so I need a solution that doesn’t require cooking.” She goes on to tell me that this isn’t a true statement, and it’s holding me back. It’s my excuse — my mind’s reasoning for not stepping into the kitchen.
“Why don’t you say, ‘I can learn to cook,’ instead?”
Wow. A change in perspective, replacing a limiting statement with an empowering one…everything I knew to do but hadn’t in this situation. As a life coach, I teach my clients about limiting beliefs, and I thought I had tackled most of mine. I never once considered that by making the kitchen my nemesis, I was actually creating more limiting beliefs for myself and writing a story that wasn’t true.
Ann Christina pointed out to me exactly what I needed to hear and address before I was ever ready to make a real change.
Since this conversation, I’ve made cooking my new challenge. You see, I love challenges. They make me come alive. Sometimes I have to suppress the competitor in me, but often she works to my advantage. One step at a time, I’ve dismantled my fear of failing and practiced a healthier lifestyle.
Ann Christina taught me that being a healthier person doesn’t have to mean hours in the kitchen or all organic ingredients. She has partnered with me to create quick and easy recipe ideas for myself and my family that honors my value of simplicity. But, even more so, she’s dug-up the root of the problem. She didn’t see me as helpless, she saw me tangled up in a lie that she knew I could surrender once she brought it into the light.
And I have.
We all have limiting beliefs — those things that live in our head that start out pretty harsh but soon become our new truth. They are weighty and cumbersome to carry around, but we do anyway because we love their familiarity. These thoughts are like when you walk barefoot and the gravel hurts the bottoms of your feet but soon callouses build up and you no longer feel the pain. The smooth sand and gentler path are within view, but since you can’t feel the pain anymore, you stick to the path you know.
We don’t like to change our thoughts because to think anything else would require hard work and replacement thoughts that feel unfamiliar and strange. But we must learn to call out the limits we place on ourselves and others because, by doing so, we offer the freedom to see and experience bigger and better things.
I want that for me, and I want that for you. Let’s take the first step…
Tell us in the comments, what limiting beliefs do you have that are holding you back?
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