How To Change A Frequent Complaint Into Your Biggest Strength
“You talk too much.”
If I had a dollar every time I heard this statement throughout my life, I’d probably be able to retire early (wouldn’t that be nice?) My family has said these words, my teachers would write about my excessive talking on every report card, and if my loved ones weren’t telling me that I talked too much, I would catch myself in the act.
Because they are right! I do talk too much.
And I started to let this truth bring me down. Why is it that I have so much more to say than everyone around me? Why can’t the “be quick to listen and slow to speak” command from the Bible be a little easier?
From an early age, I began processing why words came so easily and freely to me. Quickly, my love language popped into my head — words of affirmation.
Words are my soul’s sustenance. They are how I process the world around me, how I express my affection, and how I feel loved. All those years of storytelling and endless “chatter” were my way of giving and seeking love.
On my journey of self-discovery, through personality assessments and inner intuition, I’ve been able to uncover that words are part of my make up. They aren’t something I can easily turn on and off, and, if I do, it’s because of my inner people pleaser. Since trying to do away with that, I’ve become more comfortable with the excess words.
Do you have any phrases that have stuck with you throughout your life that felt negative or icky each time they were said? Maybe you’ve even tried to change those parts of you to fit in or morph yourself to society’s expectations. But remember, to dishonor who you are is doing a disservice to yourself. Instead, the complaints you have received the most may just be a reflection of your biggest strength!
My “talking too much” has now transformed me into becoming a writer and storyteller. The words are filtered and intentional now as I’ve learned how to use them more effectively — but they are still there with vigor! The shame I used to feel has now morphed into a confidence I have always longed for.
I want to challenge you to shift your perspective on anything that may hold you back. Move it from a burden hanging over you to become a launching pad beneath your feet — one that catapults you into the perfect direction towards who you were created to be.
Tell me in the comments how you have changed a complaint into your biggest strength.