The One Thing Fear Doesn’t Want Us To Know

The One Thing Fear Doesn’t Want Us To Know


We all have come face to face with this unwanted visitor (or in some cases, constant companion). We think fear is unique to us, but we all know it well and have been swallowed up and spit out by the emotion more times than we can count. Fear presents itself as having our best interests in mind but then prevents us from living our best life. It’s exhausting to go to battle every day. When fear knocks on our door ready to fight, we would rather just not answer and hide away instead of sitting in discomfort with our broken and tattered pieces that we were never meant to carry alone.

It’s important to understand that fear is a natural feeling that has been a crucial part of mankind’s survival. If we didn’t have an instinct of fear, we wouldn’t have been able to practically protect ourselves throughout history. I often tell my clients that fear is allowed IN the car of our lives, but it isn’t allowed to drive.

Fear is a typical echo to disaster, and the constant unexpected tragedies that happen in the world fuels its power. We are never prepared when tragedy hits. Just this morning, the news was full of horrific scenes from the shootings in Las Vegas. Not only are we all heartbroken for those people and the family’s affected, but we also have new fears to navigate. What was supposed to be a fun night out was never expected to be fatal. Some lost their loved ones in this tragic event, and in response, we hold tighter to our own.

“What if that was MY family?” “What if this same thing happens to me?”

The questions and “what ifs” will suck us dry of any logic or control. But when we choose to step into life with courage, we will gain power; with each courageous step, our power expands!

I challenge you to allow the healthy fear in but to stand up against any that steals your joy. Tragedies like the one in Las Vegas is meant to rattle us, but we can’t let it change the way we move and shake this world. You see, fear wants to win! It wants to grip us. It wants to control us and make all the rules. And we have to take back the power and say NO!

Dear fear,

You have a say in my life, but you don’t have the final say. Though I want to prevent your destruction when you go too far, instead, I choose to open the door and get to know you better. The unknown is what gives you the permission you need to rule over me. When I explore and learn your intentions, I will trust myself to make the best decisions for me and my family — not based on the “what ifs” but, instead, based on what I know to be true. What is true is that tragedy does hit when people least expect it, and if my time has come to leave this world, it doesn’t matter where I am or what I am doing. I won’t put my family or myself in intentional danger, but I also won’t live as a slave to your power.

I will mourn with those who mourn and grieve with those who grieve, but I absolutely won’t let fear win. Not today. Not any day. The one thing that fear doesn’t want us to know is that WE have the power.

My prayers are with those who have lost loved ones and those who continue battling new fears as a result.


Amanda is a wife, mother, writer/editor, and certified life coach. Pen and paper make her spirit come alive. She spends her creative time reading, decorating, and handwriting fonts. Her world is better with an assortment of chocolate and a packed bag ready for travel. She works each day to be a creative maker, storyteller, and dream-chaser.

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