Why I Stopped Looking Towards The Future To Find Happiness

Why I Stopped Looking Towards The Future To Find Happiness

I’m a dreamer.

That’s why the art of dreaming is a huge part of Downs Ups & Teacups. The core of who I am will not change, but I have learned to control the visionary side of me so it works in my favor and stops hurting me so much.

You see, I have trouble planning my routines or schedules, but I can visualize the “end goals” and dream of what life will be like when I reach certain milestones or gain access to x, y, and z. Internally, I play the same broken record over and over…“I’ll be happy when…”

But what I’ve discovered is that this mentality will actually prevent me from EVER experiencing happiness because once I arrive where I want to be, the dreamer part of me takes over the celebration. She cancels the party and gets up on her soapbox with her megaphone to yell orders about everything I need to do to get to the NEXT best thing. She’s kind of an annoying drill sergeant who disguises herself as the popular cheerleader. I THINK I want to listen to her and hang out together, but then I realize that she doesn’t have my best interest at heart.

I don’t want to cancel the party anymore because celebrations are a fun part of life!

So what have I learned to do differently?

I enjoy the HERE and NOW! The day ends and begins with gratitude for the exact phase in life I’m experiencing. Instead of staying up all hours of the night to hit my goals, I listen to my body and go to sleep when it wants to sleep. Instead of forgetting to eat because I’m trying to get work done, I fuel my body. When a milestone is reached, I take a moment to roll around in the satisfaction.

As a visionary, my goals will always matter and be important, so instead of flexing my motivation and work ethic muscles, I’m learning to soak them in soothing, minty gel while I stretch muscles that are foreign to me — relaxation and contentment.

I never want to discourage you from looking forward to the future. But I do want to protect you from living in a place that expects happiness rather than experiences it. 

Throw on that red dress, let down the disco ball, and celebrate all the beauty of the life you’ve been given right now — at this moment. Of course, the after party may be even more enjoyable, but don’t miss out on the present.


Amanda is a wife, mother, writer/editor, and certified life coach. Pen and paper make her spirit come alive. She spends her creative time reading, decorating, and handwriting fonts. Her world is better with an assortment of chocolate and a packed bag ready for travel. She works each day to be a creative maker, storyteller, and dream-chaser.

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