Intentional Discipline Promotes Growth

Intentional Discipline Promotes Growth

This week, some of my followers on Facebook saw me post this picture. I was in the middle of laying things out for dinner when my husband’s cell phone buzzed. He was in the living room, so I grabbed his phone to take to him. I noticed that the buzz signaled a reminder instead of a received text. The reminder read:

“Give affirmation.”

This made my heart flutter, and my respect for this man grew even more. He was knowing, understanding, and honoring my love language! Giving affirmation does not come naturally to David, but he was putting forth intentional and loving effort.

I learn from my husband all the time. He is way more put together than I am on this journey we call life, and he often has to drag me along. I get too distracted with the little things while he focuses on what is most important. He works hard at marriage — always has, and this is a prime example.

In this moment, I wasn’t only grateful, but I began to reflect…

What areas in my life would improve if I were this intentional?

What goals could I reach if I practiced this kind of discipline?

During this reflection, I realized fear also gets in the way of transformative change. If I’m not good at something, I tend to avoid those areas after awhile. But here my husband is giving himself a time every day to practice and grow!

Challenge 1:

I want to encourage you to pick a time and a challenge this week and put an alert on YOUR phone. Discipline is hard, but this reminder can be what holds us accountable! Stick with it. If you don’t, try again the next day!

Challenge 2:

The Five Love Languages are the following:

Acts of Service

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time


Physical Touch.

We are all surrounded by people we love who all could be loved even better! Take some time this week to figure out the love language of a person you know you could/should love better. Practice offering this kind of love, and see what happens to your relationship!

Feel free to come back here and let us know how these challenges go for you! 🙂




Amanda is a wife, mother, writer/editor, and certified life coach. Pen and paper make her spirit come alive. She spends her creative time reading, decorating, and handwriting fonts. Her world is better with an assortment of chocolate and a packed bag ready for travel. She works each day to be a creative maker, storyteller, and dream-chaser.

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2 thoughts on “Intentional Discipline Promotes Growth”

  • I absolutely LOVE this idea! Thank you for sharing. I’m going to go add reminders to love my husband right now. It sounds so silly as I type this but like you said, sometimes I get so caught up in the mundane of the day to day I forget to show love to the people I love the most. You’ve got a good man there!

    • This made me smile! So so happy to hear you are taking action to love your husband in the way his heart desires. <3 I still struggle with this but enjoy coming back to this and seeing the intention my husband gives me even when I don't deserve it.

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