GUEST POST: Intention vs. Intending
It seems like an innocuous word filled with hope doesn’t it? Honestly, it’s a word that gets on my nerves because it is usually preceded by some task that was supposed to be completed but was not. Usually, the task or event was not done because something else stood in the way.
“I intended to wash the dishes, but I got caught up in a long telephone call with Aunt Nelly.”
“I intended to go to church this morning, but I decided to sleep in after a late night of studying.”
“I intended to finish my homework by the deadline, but I got sidetracked.”
Excuses. All excuses. Even if the excuse is a good one, it is still an excuse. And though I believe intentions not followed through are excuses, we are all found guilty of these incompletes at one time or another throughout our lives. The best we can do is to make sure our incompletes become less as we mature.
We can do this by making sure we do not have too much on our plates at any given time. We have to let our “no” mean “no” and our “yes” mean “yes.” It takes work. We might lose friends and acquaintances, but we must remember that we only live once, and life is short. We cannot afford to get mired in overly long to-do lists and letting ourselves be talked into accepting tasks we have no business saying “yes” to.
So what if we turned intention on its head? What if we decided to live life with intention instead of living a life of intending? What if we chose intention instead of bitterness?
I believe, as do most people, that life is about choices. We choose to get out of bed in the morning whether we want to or not. We choose to go to school or work whether we want to or not. We choose joy instead of bitterness. We choose happiness instead of sadness. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to pretend we don’t feel a certain way. We are beings with emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, etc. But what we do with those emotions is important. As we mature physically, emotionally, and spiritually, we must live more intentionally.
Life takes us through some very sad places. For many of us, life did not turn out the way we expected. Some have been hit with untimely death, an unwanted divorce, or a marriage/children that never happened. For many of us, our hearts have been broken and twisted into unrecognizable forms. Hearts broken into so many pieces we do not believe they will ever be put back together again.
But what would happen if we lived with the intention that whether our hearts healed or not, we would be a positive force in our little corner of the world? What if we lived with the intention that our broken hearts would not rule us but that we would rule brokenness? What if we realized that the brokenness became less, even if it never completely disappeared? What if we found that in the brokenness we realized our calling, the reason we were put on this earth?
No, the broken heart and broken dreams are definitely not the paths we would have chosen, but, the fact is, they still happened. What we do about them is what matters.
What if YOU lived with intention?
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